Understanding your Fear Response: Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone
Here is a blog post about the science behind fear and how you can increase your self-confidence to step outside your comfort zone despite the fear you feel.
PSYCHOLOGY
Maya
7/2/20265 min read
Understanding and Managing Fear
Fear is an intense emotional state. Fear is an important emotion; it alerts us to danger and threats. However, when fear takes over or consumes your life, it can become debilitating; you may find that, with fear, you're unwilling to take the next step, and it just keeps you feeling stuck. Fear can keep you from fully enjoying life. Fear can hinder your growth and cause you to miss out on opportunities for self-development.
Mind and Body Connection
The beauty of our experience is that when we experience an emotion, we will also experience the emotions within our body. These physiological responses are the signals your body sends when you're feeling a certain emotion. Thus, when experiencing fear, some of the most common bodily responses include:
Heaviness in the chest
Tense muscles
Shakiness in your hands or legs
A racing heartbeat
A sensation of heat
Sweating
Adrenaline Rush
It's important to recognize and build awareness of the signals our bodies send to manage emotions. One of my favorite concepts to focus on is how the brain processes emotions in the limbic system and why managing emotions can become difficult. For this blog, we will only focus on the limbic system. When emotions are experienced, they're processed in the amygdala, a small, almond-shaped structure. The amygdala processes fear and triggers a survival response, such as fight-or-flight or Freeze.
Fight or Flight: According to Bruce Perry, Co- Author of the book, What happened to You?Conversations on trauma, resilience, and healing(2021), "Fight or Flight" was a concept created in 1915 by Walter B. Cannon to represent the acute stress response to a precieved threat and named the physiological changes that occur in each state (Perry & Winfrey, 2021). When the Fight or Flight response is activated and the more threatened or distressed we are the more likely we are unable to reach the part of the brain that provides logic and reasoning (Perry & Winfrey, 2021). Lastly, experiencing a Fight or flight response, you may notice or experience these emotional or behaviorial response such as defensiveness, feeling overwhelmed, or hypervigilance.
Freeze: When you experience a freeze response it is a automatic response to a precieved threat. In the moment you may feels as if Fighting or Fleeting is not an option for you. Thus, you find yourself freezing or pausing in the moment. Unlike Fight or Flight, the physiological responses are completely different. You may find that your heart rate is slower, shallow breathing, withdrawn, or experiences dissassociation
It's important to recognize these responses and find coping skills to help you regulate and return to your prefrontal cortex, the rational, decision-making part of your brain. Often, we find it difficult to make rational decisions when we are overwhelmed or fearful. We often act on impulse and regret how we managed our emotions after time has passed. So it is vital to find coping skills that work best for you. With coping skills and greater emotional awareness, you will be able to manage fear more confidently.
Why do I feel fear when stepping outside my Comfort Zone?
Now that I have given you the foundational piece of fear, let's see how it shows up within your comfort zone and how it can hinder your ability to move into a growth zone. We will start with just the comfort zone.
The Comfort Zone is a state in which we feel most comfortable and secure. We tend to thrive in our comfort zone because we are familiar with our capabilities, systems, and skill set. This is where we excel and feel most confident in our skill set. Often, we want to do everything we can to stay in our comfort zone.
However, being too comfortable in your comfort zone can lead to complacency, hindering your ability to grow. The inability to step outside of one's comfort zone keeps you from taking on challenges, increases inflexibility, and leads you to refuse to engage in new skills that can facilitate character growth and development.
However, when you decide to step outside your comfort zone and take opportunities as they come your way, it will push you into the Fear Zone. While in this zone, you may notice increased insecurity, hesitation, and a lack of confidence. This response occurs when a new skill or opportunity threatens what you've become accustomed to and what you feel safe tackling. Once you make the decision to take the next step and push past the fear zone, you allow yourself an opportunity to learn and grow. You enter the Growth Zone, where you are willing to take on challenges and open to learning new skills. You may find that in this zone, your curiosity and self-confidence will also increase. You will eventually realize that you have the ability to create a new comfort zone through a wealth of new skills and development that enhance what you already know. It is important to take the next step confidently, using it as a learning experience to grow. The hard part is just getting out of that fear zone.
How can I push past my Comfort Zone?
Start Small: When you start making changes, you wanna ensure you take small steps. You want to ensure that the steps you take aren't so distressing that they leave you overwhelmed and burnt out, leaving you unwilling to try again or be consistent with them.
Incorporate small changes into your daily routine: Find one opportunity to change within your day-to-day routine. It can be as simple as picking it up bright and early instead of your nightly walk for a morning or afternoon walk. Let's get in the habit of being willing to have a slight change in our day-to-day.
Change of Mindset: When an opportunity presents itself, take on the challenge with a mindset that this opportunity will be a learning experience and identify what went well and what you would like to do differently for future opportunities. When you approach a new opportunity or challenge, you're able to leave room for mistakes and increase self-compassion.
Calming Strategies: Find coping strategies that help you regulate and bring to a regulated state when faced with fear such as deep breathing and other mindfulness techniques.
Reframe Your Negative Thoughts: If you're noticing that you are fearful of taking on a new position at your job, you may be having negative thoughts that affect your self-esteem or self-worth. If that's the case, you need to assess those negative thoughts and see if they're true. Identify whether there's evidence to back it up, and if there isn't, you're more than likely having these thoughts based solely on what you are feeling, rather than thoughts grounded in reason and logic, leaving you stuck in your midbrain.
Questions to Ponder:
How has Fear affected your ability to step outside your comfort zone?
What Coping strategies do you use when faced with Fear?
Disclaimer: The information provided on this website, including all thoughts, strategies, and faith-based perspectives, is for educational and inspirational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician, licensed therapist, or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this blog.
If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, thoughts of self-harm, or a medical emergency, please call your local emergency services (like 911 or 988 in the US) or go to the nearest emergency room immediately.
Sources
Perry, B. D., & Winfrey, O. (2021). What happened to you? Conversations on trauma, resilience, and healing. Flatiron Books.
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